Improving Xinxing in Caring for the Elderly

Jin Liang, a Beijing Dafa Disciple

PureInsight | September 23, 2023

[Pureinsight.org] I am a Dafa disciple in the mountainous area of Beijing. I started to practice Falun Dafa in 1998. During the more than 20 years of practicing Falun Dafa, the compassionate and great Master has been caring for me every moment, purifying my body, improving my Xinxing and enlightening me. I can't express my gratitude to Master with human language. Now I want to write down my experience in cultivation and share it with you.

In January 2022, my husband's uncle and aunt couldn't take care of themselves because of their age, and his uncle broke his hip again, which made him unable to move. Both uncle and aunt are in their eighties and have no children, so their two nephews had to take them home and care for them. My aunt is old and incontinent; her pants are full of feces and urine. The smell is bad. I asked her to remove her clothes and change them, but she refused to take them off and would not let me take them off. We had to change to another pair of pants within two days. My uncle is a little better than her. He has a clear mind and can put on diapers, but it isn't easy to defecate, so I had to take his shit out of his butt by hand.

The sudden visit of two old people brought great trouble to my family. But I don't think it was accidental. I am a Dafa disciple. Since Master arranged for the two old people to be by my side, there is something for me to cultivate. I thank Master for allowing me to improve my xinxing. Now that the two elderly were here, I would take good care of them and let them have a happy old age. I cook delicious meals for my uncle and aunt, and I would make whatever they want, and I am never afraid of trouble. But my aunt has some mental problems; she is often picky, thinks that the food I cook is not delicious, and says I put poison in the food to harm her. It's really like Master said in Zhuan Falun, "But normally when a problem arises, if it does not irritate a person psychologically, it does not count or is useless and cannot make him or her improve." I know this is to get rid of my grievances. I use Dafa's standards to demand myself, keep my Xinxing, and neither complain nor hate. According to Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance standards, we should ask ourselves to be considerate of others. Uncle and aunt lived alone all their lives without children. I want to take good care of them, not let them be alone, let them enjoy the family happiness of having children.

When encountering unpleasant things during cultivation, I also know to look inward and find my shortcomings. For example, once my husband mentioned his uncle and aunt. Originally, my husband and his brother took turns serving them. It was agreed that the family would alternate this duty one month at that time. When the month approached, my brother-in-law said he had to pick up his uncle a few days later because of something. I said any day is fine. As a result, three days later, my brother-in-law picked up the two old people. I casually told my husband: Uncle and aunt have lived in our house for thirty-three days; next month they will also live in brother-in-law's house for thirty-three days. My husband said: No, the old couple must leave within a month. I said: they lived in our house for thirty-three days and should live in brother-in-law's house for thirty-three days. My husband immediately became upset and yelled at me, which was very ugly. My husband has never scolded me before; why did he get so angry because of one sentence this time?

At this time, I suddenly realized that I am a Dafa disciple. This is to improve my Xinxing. As a cultivator, suffering more is good, so why am I so angry? I found my fear of hardship, imbalance, self-interest, selfishness, and others. After I found my attachment, I took the initiative to apologize to my husband, telling him that I was wrong and should not argue with him, but he was right. I also must follow Zhuan Falun, "as a practitioner one should not fight back when being punched or insulted, but should conduct oneself with a high standard." If you scold me, I will not be angry because I practice Falun Dafa. I will follow Master's requirements and be a qualified Dafa disciple.

Thank you, Master, and thank you fellow practitioners!

Chinese version: https://www.zhengjian.org/node/284216
 

 

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