Tales from the Practice of Medicine: Predestined Relationship of Mother and Daughter

Yu Lin

PureInsight | February 7, 2003

[PureInsight.org] The relationship between Laurie and her mother was very complicated. Her father had abandoned them to be with another woman when Laurie was only three months old. Every couple of years, her mother would take her and move to a new city. The frequent moving made Laurie feel as if she had no roots. Because she had to change schools so many times, she had no permanent friends. She never forgave her mother for this loss.

She began to fight with her mom, both intentionally and unintentionally. If her mother asked her to go east, she would go west. If her mother asked her to buy some sugar, she would come back with salt. Although her mom and she were together all the time, their hearts were ten thousand miles apart. When her mother took her to church, Laurie prayed, "God, if you really love your children, why do you arrange for me to be with this kind of a mother?"

This "cold war" between mother and daughter ended on her eighteenth birthday. Like a bird out of the cage, she immediately moved out. Shortly afterwards, she married, but her happiness did not last long. Her mother was suddenly diagnosed with cancer and died within six months.

When she heard this news, Laurie had no idea what she should do. She wanted to cry but she also wanted to laugh. Tears spread all over her face. Soon she regretted her past very much and recalled all of her mother's goodness. In wind and rain, it was her mother who had taken her to the hospital and had watched her all night. All the gifts under the Christmas tree were for her while her mother had none. On the day before her birthday, it was her mother who stayed up late at night to bake a cake for her party even though she did not have many little friends. When she played baseball or football, it was her mother who cheered for her under the blazing sunshine. It was her mother who took her to school and picked her up for so many years.

The more Laurie thought, the more she regretted her mistakes and the sadder she became. She fell ill. Eleven years later, when she came to my clinic, half of her hair had already turned white. She was just over thirty, young enough to have a child, but she suffered from hypochondria, muscle pain, and symptoms of perimenopausal syndrome. How could a woman in her early thirties have these symptoms? I asked her family medical history. As soon as I asked about her mother, she broke into tears, and could hardly speak for crying. Then she told me her story bit by bit.

She described in detail how she had opposed her mother and how she had embarrassed her mother by making scenes in front of her friends. She regretted that she had no chance to apologize to her mother or to repay her for all the care her mother had provided. I knew that no medicine could cure her regret nor untie the knot in her heart. However, I was soon to see one dream cure her illness.

One day, Laurie saw her mom in a dream. She cried to ask her mom to forgive her, told her she missed her and expressed extreme regret. Nevertheless, her mom scolded her sternly: "Stop crying! Since I gave birth to you, I never had a good day, and it is because of you that I died so young. My death was your fault. Now even in the lower world, I am still looking for chances to retaliate. I have something to do with your illness. When I lived on earth, I was your mother. Now that I am dead we are enemies." Laurie was very surprised. She recalled the scenes of her childhood and thought, "I got sick because of you, but you blame me for hurting you. What should I do?" Angrily, she woke up and recalled this vivid dream. She regretted her anger, but did not know what she should do.

When Laurie came to the clinic and told me her dream, she could not calm down. She wanted to know my opinion. I thought for a while and told her, "Anger can cause illness but can also cure illness. You missed your mom so much that you suffered for a long time. No medicine could help you. Now you are angry, and the anger can untie this knot immediately. You can see how hard your mom is trying to help you. It is said that no one knows the daughter more than the mother. This is happening because your mom is still caring for you. Even though she is in the lower world, she still does not want to see you in pain and by using 'the opposite means' she has relieved you of the pain. You should be thankful to her."

Laurie listened to me and seemed to understand. She calmed down and then left the clinic. Since then, she has come back several times. She has completely recovered from her illnesses.

Actually, predestined relationships are not established in one lifetime. Even though human beings lose the physical body, the debt they owe and the karma they accumulate must be paid. As for the predestined relationship between Laurie and her mother, let the reader decide who owes whom.

Translated from: http://www.zhengjian.org/zj/articles/2003/1/21/20129.html

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