Exploring Cycles of Incarnation: My Friend's Goddaughter

Hang Ming

PureInsight | June 20, 2005

[PureInsight.org] In the summer of 2004, I received a phone call from a friend. She asked me to help her goddaughter find a job, and this is how I began to know her goddaughter. The young woman was a graduate of a prestigious college in China, but she has had a lot of difficulty in finding a job in the United States that matched her level of education because she had studied liberal arts in college. Her career struggle was taking a toll on her pride. First of all, I tried to comfort and encourage her. "Since you are already in the United States," I said. "There must be a good reason why you are here. God must have plans for you when he put you on earth. If you have difficulty finding a job, perhaps it just means it's not your time yet. When it's time for you to start a career, no one can stop you from having one." She began to feel less frustrated.

She started to divert her attention to looking for a romantic relationship and soon found a man that she decided to spend the rest of her life with. They were very much in love with each other and decided to get married. However, one day she suddenly came to my home in tears and told me that her boyfriend had decided to end their relationship. She was completely heartbroken, but she was too proud to cry in her godmother's home, so she came to me for emotional relief instead. At the time I did not know what to say to comfort her. The subject of romantic relationships is such a complex matter. I am not god, so how could I possibly explain why this was happening to her. In order to explore the truth, I suggested to her that she be hypnotized. She agreed. During the hypnosis, she saw their relationship in a previous life and understood why her boyfriend suddenly decided to break up with her in this life.

She visited one of her previous lives when she was the daughter of a rich man in the suburbs of Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, China during the Qin Dynasty (1616-1911 A.D.). One day on the Tomb Sweeping Day, she and her nanny went to Lingyin Buddhist Temple in Hangzhou to worship the Buddha. While she was offering the Buddha incense, a young monk in the temple was smitten with her countenance and composure, and fell in love with her at the first sight. As she burned incense at each shrine, the young monk followed her and kept his eyes on her from the distance. Her sharp female instinct told her that someone was checking her out behind her back. She felt very embarrassed yet curious. She couldn't resist the temptation to find out who had been giving her such intense attention, so she turned her head only to find a young, handsome and attractive monk with an intense look in his eyes. It was love at the first sight for her as well. On her way back home, she felt someone was following her home and kept wondering if it was the handsome monk. She purposely slowed down her pace, but her nanny kept hurrying her in order to return home by nightfall. A few days later, there was a rumor in the village that a young monk had been wandering about there. When she heard the news, she knew right away it was the handsome monk from the Lingyin Temple, so she asked her nanny to check him out. The young monk recognized her nanny because he had seen them together at the temple. He approached her and confessed that he had fallen in love with the young lady and would like to meet her. The nanny returned and told the girl everything. She was completely smitten with him and was dying to meet him, so she asked her nanny to arrange the rendezvous in the back yard of her home. After the first date, they had the second and the third. Finally, her father found out about their scandalous affair. To prevent her from disgracing the family, he married her off in a hurry. The monk never saw her again. He did not what had happened, so he thought she had deceived him, played with his feelings and then chucked him. He was heartbroken. Despair made him give up his cultivation practice all together. Because he had already broken his vows by sneaking out of the temple, he could not return to the Lingyin Temple ever again. He became a homeless man and wandered about from one place to another. Eventually he died of depression.

It turned out that the young monk has been reincarnated as the boyfriend who had just broken up with her before the wedding in her present life. Now she has gone through almost the same torment, except that their roles have been reversed in the present life. The young monk died of depression, but it was not really her fault. Therefore, she did not have to repay him with her life. A broken heart and tears sufficed. After learning the cause and effect relationship between them, she healed very quickly and began to look for a new romance.

Soon she found a new boyfriend through online chatting. He had scored the highest in his entire province during the college entrance exam and went to a prestigious university in China. Then he graduated from a prestigious graduate school in the United States and is now working for a large corporation with an excellent salary. In addition, he has made a lot of inventions and has over 20 patents for his inventions. She has a lot to talk about with him and they soon got married.

During my hypnosis session with her, she also learned about the relationship she had with her current godmother and godfather in a previous life. [According to Chinese custom, when you have a godmother, your godmother's husband automatically becomes your godfather.] Her godmother has been extremely affectionate to her, but her godfather is very afraid of her for some unknown reason. Her godfather does everything she says but he godfather does not listen to all the women in the household. For example, he does not do everything his daughter-in-law asks him. In addition, the young woman also has a very good rapport with her godparents' son. As a result, her godparents' daughter-in-law had been very jealous of her and often started fights in the family over her. Eventually, her godparents' son and daughter-in-law had a divorce. Her godfather often complained, "We have mysteriously lost a daughter-in-law." It was not until this hypnosis that she learned the cause and effect relationships between her godparents and her.

In one of her previous lives, she was born as a boy from a destitute family. One day he was so hungry that he stole food from a family. Because that family also had difficulty putting food on the table, the head of the household was very angry with him. He hung the boy on the tree and denied him food and water for three days and three nights. An elderly begging woman passed by and saw the boy suffering from the torture. She could not bear to watch the boy suffering, so she gave him a bowl of water to quench his thirst. However, she was unable to protect the boy from the torture or save his life. Later the boy died.

The head of the household became the young man's godfather in her present life. The elderly begging woman became her godmother in her present life. Apparently her godfather is afraid of her and obeys her because he has to repay her for what he did to her in a previous life. On the other hand, she is supposed to repay her godmother for her kind help. Why does it look like she is creating troubles for her? At the time I couldn't quite explain the relationship between them.

Later the answer was revealed to me. She found a good job. It was not a very taxing job, but it paid very well. After she got married, she left this area. Before she moved, she passed the job to her godmother. Her godmother once told me, "It is very difficult to find a easy job like this with such good pay." She referred her godmother to her boss for this job, and her boss agreed to hire her godmother to replace her. I think this is how she repaid her godmother for a bowl of water when she was in need in a previous life.

Interpersonal relationships are difficult to explain or change because they are not the result of what we have done in our present lives. Teacher said,

"A wicked person is born of jealousy.
Out of selfishness and anger he complains about unfairness towards himself.
A benevolent person always has a heart of compassion.
With no discontentment or hatred, he takes hardship as joy."
(From "Realms" in Essentials for Further Advancement.)

Once we understand the universal law of cause and effect, it will be easier for us to endure people who seem to be "unjust" to us. On the contrary, the heavenly law is just: we will reap what we sow --- in this life or the next. Teacher said,

"We say that when you take a step back in a conflict, you will find the seas and the skies boundless, and it will certainly be another situation." (From "Enlightenment" in Lecture Nine of Zhuan Falun.)

Wouldn't it better for us to take a step back in a conflict, now that we know that it is a heavenly law that we will always reap what we sow?

Translated from: http://www.zhengjian.org/zj/articles/2005/4/3/31804.html

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