Treating the Sinner with Good Intentions
Some days ago I solved a problem and by so doing I felt Dafa harmonizing everything and Dafa had provided me with power from good intentions.
One Monday evening, I was at home preparing our dinner. After my wife returned from work, she asked me whether a person who did wrong could do more wrong things to cover up the bad deed. I was surprised to hear these words, which sounded very strange to me. I asked her: “Why are you saying that?” She replied that there was something she wanted to tell me for a long time but had found it too difficult to talk about it. Then she told me that she had been with another man and had committed a sin for which she felt she should apologize to me. She was hesitant to talk about it and said that now both of them felt guilty when they were together.
At that moment I recalled that Teacher once said that when a person has sex with someone who is not his wife or her husband that is sin. Then I told her that “Do you know what you have actually done? You have committed a sin! Although you may run away from the legal penalties of this act you shall be rewarded by retribution.” She said to me: “I know this matter is serious, for which we beg your pardon. It is mostly your pardon for which we beg. We are very sorry. But we were sincere with each other. You won’t understand. I will accept whatever I should. ”
Hearing these words I was horrified. I wondered what was wrong with today’s people. How could they still feel they have justice on their side for doing this thing that harmed others? Is this a degenerated person? A person without moral restraints has lost the ability to distinguish right from wrong. I realized that if I had not learned Dafa I could have been confused about the truth behind her concealing words. Wrong is wrong. The basis of the relationship was wrong in the first place. Even if you acted with so-called sincerity in the process, that is still a real wrong. In present day society there are TV series and fictional stories which often talk about affairs outside of marriage in the quest of true love. Isn’t that a warped thought that is leading people to lose their moral restraint? The occurrence of this matter is my tribulation and karma. I must bear what I should bear. However, if I let this matter continue without pointing out the wrong doing, how can I manifest the real compassion of a Dafa disciple?
At that moment, without considering my own feelings, but only for the sake of their true lives in the long run, I just felt them to be so pitiful. I wanted to do my best to help them.
I talked to her very calmly: “No matter what your intention is, if the result of your conduct may cause harm to other people, do you ever consider whether you are right or wrong? You always fear that your affair will be exposed. Actually any degenerated thing fears to be exposed. At this moment, I think that both of you have to end your immoral relationship. Only by doing so will you be able to become a righteous person.” I told her that according to the principle of “good rewarded by good, evil by evil” as well as the stories I read from Minghui Net (Clearwisdom Net) and Zhengjian Net (PureInsight Net). In the past, she wouldn’t listen to me, but this time she paid attention to these thoughts.
The next day, she did not go to work, but wept all day long at home. That night she said goodbye to that man.
On the third day, after she went to work I sent her a bunch of flowers. After work, she told me that she originally thought that I would divorce her. She had already prepared to live alone. But I told her that if I were not a Dafa disciple I would not treat things in this way. I didn’t want her to live in guilt in her future life. “Your mistake can be corrected, but do not commit it again.”
Thus, good intentions allow me to handle this tribulation gracefully and peacefully.
This experience looks a minor incidence. But through it I realize now that there are many, many degenerated thoughts. As ordinary people, they don’t feel that there is anything wrong with accepting those warped thoughts. It is very hard for them to detect the degeneration. As Dafa disciples we should not allow those warped thoughts to poison the minds of people. Those thoughts are leading people further and further away from moral restraints. They are indeed evil. We should eliminate them, letting the people be capable of having more righteous thoughts. To rectify this dimension is also part of “assisting Teacher in this world”.
The above is just my own experiences, please kindly point our anything improper.