Cultivating in My Family and Teaching Career

Bai He, a Canadian Dafa Disciple

PureInsight | June 23, 2022

[] As soon as I got notified of the upcoming Fa Conference, my first thought was to write an article to validate Dafa. For long periods, I reckoned that it was late for me to obtain the Fa and I did not cultivate well. Now I realized that these human notions should not become the obstacles in my cultivation. Master said in Zhuan Falun, “All practitioners are disciples, no matter when they began the practice.”

Master said in Zhuan Falun, “You can only have such a wish and think about it like that, but it is the Master who actually does these things.” In addition, Master stated in Teachings at the Midwestern U.S. Conference, “Yesterday a reporter asked me, ‘What has made you the happiest in your whole life?’ Of course, my whole life has been devoted to this one thing. I said, as to matters of ordinary people, there’s nothing that would make me happiest, but when I hear or see students sharing their experiences, that is when I feel most gratified.” With Master’s compassionate hint, I was moved and decided to write sharing articles. At that moment, I felt that Master was actually right by my side.

We have been involved in cultivation all the time on a daily basis. We are cultivating when encountering either significant issues or trivial matters. Sometimes we might get enlightened slowly and might not be able to discover our fundamental attachment, so we should beg Master’s help. This is because Master is looking after us every single moment.

Discard My Impatience

Recently, my children have always been fussy eaters, so they did not like the meals I cooked. They always asked me if I used a particular ingredient or if I followed the steps outlined by the instruction book. I did not realize that this was to dispel my impatience, the heart of coercing others, and the heart that could not be criticized by others. I replied to them, “Just eat it! Why are you so picky? You’ve been spoiled.” The more I argued with my children, the more I felt irritated. Fortunately, I realized that it was my fault later. Why did I raise my voice instead of talking to my children peacefully? In the test, I forgot that I am a cultivator and they helped me let go of my demon nature. Master said in Zhuan Falun, “Of course, you will not be informed of a tribulation or conflict ahead of time. How can you practice cultivation if you are told everything? It will not serve any use. They usually occur unexpectedly so that they can test one’s xinxing and make one’s xinxing truly improve. Only then can it be seen whether one can maintain one’s xinxing. Therefore, when a conflict arises, it does not occur accidentally.”

Have Human Notions Transformed

My husband has long wanted to move to a new place, while I did not approve of this. I really need the local group Fa study environment. For this reason, there were tensions in my family. However, based on Master’s Fa teaching, we need to cultivate into altruistic beings. So why I hindered my husband seeking a new place to settle down? He had been working hard for more than ten years, so he deserved a lifestyle that he wanted. Then I felt relaxed and said to him, “Please feel free to do anything that you like.”

Thanks to my positive changes, my elder son could get along well with his father. In addition, he began to communicate with us and to do household work actively. Looking back the past six years, my selfishness resulted in an awkward condition in my family. My husband asked me, “What made you change your character?” As he had been treated exceptionally nicely, he found my positive changes unbelievable.

I talked to my children, “Though you started to study the Fa a bit late, please don’t worry. You just need to attend to everything earnestly.” Meanwhile, I used to reckon that as long as my children have started Fa study, everything should work out smoothly. Dafa was considered an umbrella, which was wrong. Master said in Zhuan Falun, “There was a person who was walking on the street with my book in his hand, yelling, ‘I have Teacher Li’s protection, so I’m not afraid of being hit by a car.’” Therefore, we should have ourselves rectified by the Fa.

Master Let Me Keep Practicing My Expertise

I used to take up vocal music and dance. After settling down outside of China, I stopped practicing my major. Instead, I chose to do one-year course of children’s service. After graduation, I worked as a kindergarten teacher. One of my colleagues heard my singing and recommended that I go to the local choir. However, I did not take the advice. Later on, I served three-year teaching at a preschool. After I gave birth to my second baby, I started to run a family kindergarten by myself. Thus, I could teach singing and piano to children. In 2020, I was advised that a fellow practitioner guided some younger practitioners through Fa study after coronavirus outbreak. In addition, they intended to learn singing too. Since I majored in vocal music, I felt delighted to undertake the teaching task.

Unexpectedly, I had a dream on that night. In the dream, I could see a group of children wearing white skirts, along with another three adults who also wore white skirts. I could see my underwear. On the following day, I told my fellow practitioners that I was unable to teach singing to children. Because I had a bad dream, in which I could see my underwear. This probably indicated that I still had human lust. However as soon as she heard this, she said to me, “Those three adults refer to three of us delivering teaching to children. Those angels are representing the young practitioners. You can see your underwear, which means that you can look inside. You’re right.”

Recently, I ran into a fellow practitioner when I shopped. She got excited to let me know: She had a dream, in which she saw Master issuing a certificate of Honor to me. She reckoned that Master felt happy with my teaching singing to young practitioners.  

Practice Immense Tolerance and Abolish Resentment

When I worked at kindergarten, a child was restless in the sleep time and kept playing with her bedsheet. The more I felt annoyed, the more she was unwilling to sleep. As a result, I used a threatening tone speaking with her rather than looking within. This issue had lasted about half a year.

Fortunately, during the Fa study process, I realized that when I lost my temper with the child, I did not tolerate at all, let alone practicing compassion. Whenever a child was unable to study the Fa earnestly, my resentment surfaced and ordered him to study the Fa carefully right away. When he ran into some characters that he did not know, I explained to him impatiently.

Actually, I was given opportunities to upgrade my xinxing. In those circumstances, I failed to regard myself as a practitioner. I just kept reviewing the other party’s shortcomings.

Once I raised my voice when speaking with one of children, as he could not memorize a few characters. Then another child messaged me, “Please don’t keep yelling at microphone.” My cultivated side was aware that it was my fault, while I should go to next room to calm down. Why was I so hot-tempered? Because I wanted to drive out any interference for children during Fa-study. Then I talked to the boy kindly, which made him comfortable. Later, he had a stomachache, but he did not want to go to the toilet. He was afraid that he would miss the practice of reciting the Fa, so he endured it. Meanwhile, I sent forth righteous thoughts to help him purge negative factors. As a result, after he finished reading the Fa, his stomach was no longer upset.

The Miracle of Dafa

During the coronavirus pandemic, a child got indulged in computer games. To solve this issue, I studied Master’s Fa (Fa Teaching at the 2019 New York Fa Conference) with all children, which is as follows:

“Question: My cultivation state has had ups and downs. Sometimes I am attached to doing things that I’m fond of, such as spending time on the computer, on video games, or on my mobile phone, and it’s been to the detriment of my cultivation. How can I get better control of myself and stay diligent?


Master: I’d like to give you my take on what people normally refer to as “addiction.” In the medical sciences it’s believed that addiction occurs when the part of the nervous system associated with addictive behaviors is stimulated and develops to a sufficient degree. But that’s not it. What’s happening, then? Over time, that addictive substance accumulates, and forms inside of your body an identical version of you that comes to control you. Because it is composed of strong attachment, and has your appearance, it has an equally strong desire to control you; it was formed out of strong desires, after all.


This holds true for drug use as well. Some people say that recreational drug use is no big deal and that it seems harmless. And sure, people feel pretty good when they try it. What if they do it again? There’s no apparent problem. How about one more time? Then their self-control starts to erode. But why is that? When that substance is inhaled, inside of your body it forms a very thin and light version of you. One hit is all it takes, since it’s highly poisonous. And with the second hit, that version of you that was thin and light grows a bit denser. And it will continue to get denser with each subsequent hit, growing stronger and sturdier. It will have the full structure of your body as well as thinking, and be an entirely drug-induced and demonic version of you. Of course, it may not do anything other than crave drugs. It can’t bear to be without them. That’s because it is now alive. So what happens, then? As you might imagine, it will become progressively lighter if you stop using drugs, as a result of your body’s metabolic processes, until eventually it dies. Since it doesn’t wish to die, it compels you to take drugs again in order to strengthen it.


Spending unnecessary time on the computer or playing video games has the same effect; it’s the same idea. If you want to quit, that thing won’t want you to since it would die. And so it will do all in its power to make you engage in those things. And if you try not to, it will interfere with your work or studies by causing your mind to crave them. If you refuse, it might even make you do those things in your dreams.


It strikes me how easily human beings are controlled by foreign entities. The human body is really just a vessel made up of the foods a person has consumed and that is inherited from one’s parents. With the consumption of food, it grows, but it is really weak, as anyone or anything can control it. Things that are formed in other dimensions are sentient, and though their plane may be low, they still have the ability to control people since the human body is weak.”


The young disciples also helped send forth righteous thoughts every day to clear the game demon in the child's space field. Obviously, shouting loudly, losing their temper, and throwing the mouse were exactly a manifestation of a person’s demon nature. Moreover, when studying the Fa, he could not sit still and concentrate on study. I communicated with him verbally a few times, but he did not listen.

With the help of my fellow practitioner, I witnessed a miracle of Dafa. As we kept studying the Fa and sending forth righteous thoughts, the child took only one week to quit the addiction to computer games. At the current stage, he is attending the morning exercise and online group Fa study on time every day. He obtained good academic results in his school tasks. In addition, he is willing to undertake household work and he can endure hardship. At one time, when he was doing the second exercise, his hands were sore, but he did not put his hands down. He silently recited, “Falun Dafa is good. Zhen-Shan-Ren is good.” He completed the second exercise in 30 minutes.

Please kindly point out anything that does not conform to the Fa.


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