Criticizing with Kindness

A Western Practitioner in Kansas, U.S.A.

PureInsight | August 8, 2007

[PureInsight.org]   My mother is a very wise person.

 

She has read The Book about 5 times, but she is not a cultivator.

 

However, she pointed something out to me.

 

She said, "Why do the practitioners, when they point out your
attachments, say it like it's 'something you have' or 'something you
are' instead of 'something you do'?"

 

I asked her to explain further.

 

She said, "Well, you don't tell a child that if they spilled their
milk, they are a bad person. You tell them that they spilled their milk
so they need to clean it up or that you will have to clean it up. 
It's just something they did, it's not who they are.  So why do
practitioners continually treat each other as if they are bad or good,
based on what their (perceived) attachments are? "

 

She understands the principle of "criticizing" others with kindness.

 

 Master teaches,

 "During the process of transforming karma, to keep yourself under
control - unlike an everyday person who would mess things up - you
should always maintain a heart of benevolence and a mind of kindness."
(Zhuan Falun)



 

Practitioners need to consider how they treat each other.  A
person's attachments have nothing to do with their true self. 
It's simply from human notions and karma.  Since practitioners are
ridding themselves of these things through cultivation, then the
tolerance of a mother needs to be practiced towards our brothers and
sisters as well.



Master teaches,

"When a person practices qigong he has to take virtue seriously, do
good things for others, and be kind - he should discipline himself this
way in every action and in every circumstance." (Zhuan Falun)



I realized from this quick exchange with my mother that this is something I have been doing wrong.

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