PureInsight | January 21, 2002
Over the course of one’s life, interpersonal conflicts are unavoidable. Many of us spend our life enduring, creating, avoiding and resenting interpersonal conflicts. From the perspective of an adversarial person, a life without any interpersonal conflicts would be a life without passion and meaning. It would be a lonesome and spiritless life. However, not everyone can remain an adversarial person, especially during this period in history. Many of them end up making poor decisions on important matters after they’ve experienced too many negative feelings and grievances from interpersonal conflicts.
Things rarely happen the way we would like. Whether we like it or not, all of us encounter interpersonal conflicts. They cause us great pain, puzzlement and entangle our hearts. These conflicts may not only impact us, but our future generations as well. We seem compelled to experience conflicts.
Is there no way out of engaging ourselves in interpersonal conflicts and accepting the pain that comes with them?
Nine years ago a group of people began to transform their conflicts into benevolent results. They encounter interpersonal conflicts just as everyone else, but their attitude toward them is different. Most people become irritated and blame others or circumstances around them when conflicts arise. This only perpetuates a vicious cycle of grievances. Eventually, they develop into an endless succession of attacks and reprisals. This particular group believes that they should always look deeply within and improve themselves even when others involved in the conflict refuse do the same. As long as we are earthly mortals, we are bound to have flaws. If one takes conflict as an opportunity to eliminate his flaws and works towards perfecting oneself instead of pointing his finger at others, he has begun to transcend the mundane values of this world. When he handles a conflict in this manner, he has released himself from the vicious cycle of attacks and reprisals. He has transformed a conflict into a benevolent interaction.
Some are skeptical of this approach. They would rather stick to the conventional way of conflict resolution. This unique group has rewarded itself with continued improvement of mind and health. Many of those who have attained higher levels of the Fa have had positive influences upon their friends, families and everyone around them. Who in today’s society can truly feel compassionate and sympathetic towards those who are physically and mentally torturing them? Who are willing to give up their interests purely to benefit others? Who can calmly speak out for justice and risk their lives when facing slanderous lies and social pressures? Such individuals have already eliminated many attachments. Early in their journeys, they underwent a great deal of pain and humiliation. Soon, they were able to turn conflicts into benevolent results, for which they were admired as role models.
These people described herein are the group of people who believe in “Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance,” the only standard by which they evaluate themselves. Day after day their souls become freer, their spirits become nobler and their principles become more unshakable as they follow this principle.
Some people say, “Some things cannot be attained by conscious pursuits.” This is the case of true happiness. A revolution in one’s thinking can bring about true happiness. All of us are bound to encounter several critical moments when a revolution in our thinking brings about our own salvation. Each attachment we remove empowers us to release ourselves from conflict and to remove negative feelings.
If you believe yourself to be blessed with wisdom or are troubled by unhappiness, I sincerely encourage you to explore Falun Dafa and the universal principle of “Truthfulness-Benevolence-Forbearance.”
Translated from:
http://www.zhengjian.org/zj/articles/2002/1/7/13211.html
