Getting Over Being Afraid of Offending Others

A Dafa Practitioner in China

PureInsight | November 15, 2007

[PureInsight.org] I am a
veteran practitioner. When I read an article from the Minghui Weekly -
Sudden Realization: Fear of Displeasing or Hurting Others, I benefited
a great deal. I was shocked and I found my failing.



From the point of view of non-cultivators, I am a person who tries not
to offend anybody. A lot of people are like that. From the Fa, this
attitude is the sentimentality of non-cultivators. It is an attitude
involving saving face. Looking at its root, it is from a motive of
self-protection to prevent one from being harmed. Sometimes I saw other
practitioner's inadequacies but I dared not point it out, being afraid
of inviting trouble or offending others. I felt that, as long as it has
nothing to do with me, it's better not to add more trouble.



Master teaches us that we need to advance and improve as one body. This
attitude of being afraid of offending others directly influences our
advancing and improving as one body. When we see practitioners'
shortcomings or inadequacies and if we point it out with good
intentions, fellow practitioners will accept it. If not, it could mean
that we don't have enough benevolence. What we say will touch others if
we consider their benefit.



For the benefit of Dafa, fellow practitioners, and myself, I will
follow what Master said: "Your tone of voice, your kindheartedness, and
your reasoning can change a person's heart" and cultivate away the
attachment of evading conflict and being afraid of offending others.



I like to end here with a poem from Hong Yin II:



Journeying Via the Way



"The Great Way travels through the world

Bringing salvation to lives once lost

Thoughts of fame, feeling, and profit gone -

Could any difficulty stop the holy one?"



Translated from:

http://www.zhengjian.org/zj/articles/2007/11/6/49189.html

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